Hey, everyone. I have a different blog today. I want to hype up everyone who’s 23 and single. Well, anyone who’s single and whatever age. I think this will mostly apply to people who are within the 20s age range, so…take what resonates, haha.
I had an epiphany today that relationships do not interest me. I spent awhile turning off my Instagram and staying off Snapchat and Facebook unless necessary. This gave me plenty of time to do yoga, meditate, read, and focus on my career. The entire time I’ve been quarantined and not working–I just realized the things I do want.
I want an amazing career, which I will continue to work on three times as hard to build and then work on the friendships I have now. Family and friends. I do not give a fuck about what anyone else has to say to be considering I had a mental breakdown about residency regarding what age I should get married. Apparently, it’s 27 and in my community if you’re over the age of 27, you’re off the market. I am okay with waiting so my marriage does not end up in divorce. Also, we are already stressed out and unhappy about so many other things when we should be happy. So, fuck you.
Everyone has ups and downs about whether they want to be in a relationship or not, but I’m putting on my practical lenses. I’ve said it multiple times, but I’ve just let the pressure fall off my shoulders. I do not want to get married. I don’t mind being single. I like my freedom. I don’t care how long it takes me to find someone as long as it’s the right person and we don’t end up in a shit marriage. I will not tolerate a shit marriage. I’m fine being engaged for a lifetime. I have high standards. I just want to stand up on my own.
In case, someone else is feeling alone. Don’t feel alone. You should be grateful. Relationships are hard work. It can take years to finally stop romanticizing them. It’s really important to understand that they are not everything. If you take all your thoughts, and your energy and pile it into something that will bring you success, you’d be surprised at your potential. You are not defined by a relationship and remember every culture views marriage differently. Be different. Step into your power. The more you go inward and validate yourself, the more you’ll stop giving a fuck.
So friends, stop giving a fuck. If you find someone compatible along the way, awesome. At least you’ll know you didn’t settle, rush, or feel pressured to be with them. Imagine if that’s how/why someone else loved you cause they felt like they had no choice. Exactly.
Plus, there’s another thing. The more you grow older and just romanticize your own life and become more mindful, you realize your own worth. We have given other people’s thoughts, expectations, and opinions too much power over our own. There are times when we ‘can’ conform and other times we should not. When it comes to our own happiness and sanity, we should not.
There’s so many people in our society who feel upset and scared about finding someone to the point where they feel like they’re going insane. I was reading a romance novel and the story baffled me. These women drove themselves crazy to get a date and find a guy. One of them bought flowers to put in her room, and fake recorded men’s voices in order to get a call back. I’m sorry, but when you’ve gone to that point, you need to see a therapist or just reel it back in.
Do not lose yourself to society’s expectations. When you were brought into this world, you weren’t here to be born into a relationship. You were brought here to help contribute to humanity or a cause that you believe in. You were brought here to enjoy your life and be happy. It looks different for everyone. It may seem unattainable. Think about it, though. Why did life become so blue? Societal expectations. I’m telling you to get rid of the ones that do not serve you and one of the ones I see commonly is relationships.
Just remember this: if someone loved you because they felt pressured to settle down or they just felt like they needed to…rather than for who you are as a person…how would that make you feel? It would make me feel like shit. I want someone who loves me for me–not my money, my past, superficial things, but for me. That’s it.
Stephanie
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